WELL, SO MUCH FOR ALL THAT STUFF YOU TALKED ABOUT BEFORE. I'VE ALREADY HAD SEX, AND WITH MORE THAN ONE PERSON, SO IT'S KIND OF TOO LATE FOR ME TO CHANGE.
Says who? No, you can't do an instant replay and change what's happened, but everyone makes some choices that don't look great when they look back on them. That's part of the learning process. You're here, now, with some new information and maybe some different ideas about your health, your sexuality and your future. Good for you. Start from this point and simply go in another direction, a direction that will take you clearly toward your goals for success.
EASY TO SAY. HOW DO I DO THAT?
Well let's go back to the idea of having a plan of action.
- Start with letting yourself off the hook. Forgiveness is a pretty old fashioned word to use these days but it's a pretty sound idea and it works on yourself. Forgive yourself for messing up and move on.
- Make a choice around your present sexual activity. You are free to stop being sexually active. Concentrate on ways of achieving your goals without being compromised by the risks of being sexually active at this age.
- Leave the relationship you are in if your partner does not support your health and success decisions. You own your sexuality. And no one owns you. Make your choices and go for them.
- Look for friends who are committed to owning their sexuality and encourage the friends you are already close with to delay their sexual activity while they work on other parts of their lives and personal development.
- Choose to date people who share your commitment and your goals.
- Don't be afraid not to date for awhile. This is not going to doom your chances of ever falling in love and finding a great partner to share your whole life with, we promise.
- Avoid settings that set you up for easy sexual contact. You don't have to run into traffic to avoid the opposite sex, just don't get into situations that could be difficult.
- Then there's always your own self-control. No one is taking away your sexuality, your natural attraction for people you meet, or telling you to go hide in a hole until you’re 35. Just make a decision that there are some things you won't do and then set your life up so that this decision is supported by your other choices.
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